See this? This is how I’m feeling this week. A little crazy. (Yes, my hair probably looks like that – I have a haircut appointment for tomorrow, because I can’t stand it any longer.) Yes, I can mostly be found working or walking around Loopy with a Cup ‘o Joe. Caffeine is good for stress, right? (ahem) No, I’m not wearing red shoes. I ought to be. (This cute coffee lady comes from here.)
Three things I’m working on this week:
1. Getting the Sneak Up done. (Check – it’s up! You’ll find tons of Malabrigo – Lace, Worsted, Silky, Seleccion Privada, Dragonfly Fibers, Dye Dreams Comfy Sox, Lorna’s Laces Shepherd Sock, Dream in Color Classy, Fleece Artist Merino 2/6, Hand Maiden Casbah, Lorna’s Laces Wooltop roving, and Knit Girl/Knitting Nerd card decals.)
2. Getting stuff finished up for the Sock Summit Boooth. (I love my yarn companies and indie dyers. They’re kickin’ butt booty to get things done.)
3. Overseeing Web Guy’s move to Florida. (If you have a 22 year old, you know that “over-seeing” is a misnomer. He’s taking care of everything. I’m just pretending like I’m somehow involved a bit.)
Three things I enjoyed last week:
1. Having Audrey, Gretchen and Jen down to visit from Indiana. Friends of Web Guy’s. Nice nice gals.
2. Having Jess visit from Virginia. Friend of Web Guy’s. Nice nice gal.
3. Starting a new project with Malabrigo Silky. OHmygosh is this stuff ever amazing. I’m making a scarf. I’ll show pics and share the pattern soon.
Three things I will enjoy this week:
1. The nicer weather. It’s gorgeous out today – low 80’s, low humidity, totally do-able for summertime in St. Louis. More just like this for most of the week. Good thing, as the All-Star baseball game is here tomorrow night.
2. Driving down to Florida with Web Guy. Does he need company to drive down there? No. But he lets me come along because he knows that his mom will sleep better at night if she can picture where he is, safe and sound.
3. Knitting in the car for the 18 hour trip to south Florida.
Three more things you ought to know:
1. We leave on Wednesday morning, so I’ll be away from the blog and email the rest of the week. Call or email support AT theloopyewe DOT com if you need anything!
2. Susan will also be out the rest of the week. (It’s a busy week for everyone!) But the rest of the Elves will be here, getting your orders out and answering the phone and support emails.
3. Our huge order of Alchemy Juniper is due to arrive this week, so hopefully we’ll be able to photo it all and get it up for you next week. They have been a great company to work with and I know you will love this yarn.
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One good thing about the move is that it is in the time of cell phones and video phones and other technology that lets us keep in touch. Now whether or not a son will use such technology is quite another thing.
The need to strike out on one’s own is the sign of the kind of parenting that allows wings. We all want wings don’t we? You know that you have done a difficult job well and if you did not love him it would not be so difficult. It is our job as parents to miss and their job as children to enjoy and excel in that new, on-my-own life.
Bittersweet is a good word for this time.
I dunno…but my oldest did, and the middle one is currently away for the summer, and the youngest is in Colorado…and yup, it’s weird.
On the upside, the house is cleaner…but I’m not sure that’s worth it. They have to be grown
I’m one of those kind-of adult kids. My mom and I cry every time I’m at the airport to fly back to Colorado, but at the same time:
1. No more expensive college tuition! (And no more paying for clothing and food and books or any of those other non-trivial expenses. And on the kid side, as much as we hate learning to pay bills, it’s a relief for us to know we’re not costing you thousands and thousands of dollars a year.)
2. You have an exciting place to visit, and an excellent reason to go there! I think the minute I told my parents I was going to grad school in Colorado, they started planning all the things they wanted to do in the Boulder/Denver/Rocky Mountain National Park area. Now you have a great excuse to see the Everglades and Disneyworld!
3. Most importantly, this means you have raised a caring, responsible adult. This means that you and WH have been wonderful parents and taught Web Guy to deal with his problems in a responsible manner and taught him excellent interpersonal skills so he can make friends with his coworkers and that he’s capable of dealing with the small things in life too, like doing laundry and eating vegetables. As difficult as it is (and I know it’s hard, my mom and dad and I cry every time I’m at the airport to fly back to school), this is the ultimate success as a parent, so congratulations to you and WH (and WG for being a great kid that makes you want to keep him at home!).
My best wishes to everyone in your family, and congratulations to WG on starting this new chapter in his life!
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Well there just is not an okay thing when kids move from home. But now you can visit FL more! I know you are sad at this HUGE transition! It took me almost 5 years not to cry all the time! Kitties will help you!
It’s never easy. I moved from the west coast of the US to the UK. I ended up moving back after a few years, but any decision as to where to live is so hard, especially now that we have a child. If we go back to the UK my parents live a world away from their only grandchild.
If we stay in the US, my son lives a world away from his elder siblings, and his dad lives that far from his parents and his adult kids.
Not easy, whatever we do. I can’t even bear to think about my baby moving away someday! He’s only two, but still, someday….
As has been said, it’s a sign of your success as a parent, but not an easy one!
‘Member when they began to walk and we were scared they would fall and hit their heads and kill themselves? ‘ Member when they started to school and we were not sure they would be alright without us? ‘Member when they started to ride a 2 wheeler, drive a car, went to jr high, high school and college? And we were not sure that they could do it, but they did? In a year or two this too will be history, or maybe repeating if your daughter is leaving home too. You raised them well, they will be okay. And, so, with a little tissue and some hugs, will you. There are lots of other wonderful scary things to go yet. Just wait for the next phase. By the way, it will be wonderful, too.
When my daughter was born and was in arms, my Mother said to me, just what are you going to do when she is no longer in the house? I was shocked, she wasn’t even hardly dry yet. My mom said, the first step they take is away and they keep on going. She as right. But they do come back again and again. it is a wonderful thing to look at an adult child and have that flash that says, Wow, that is a great person, and realize in the same flash that it is your great person. N
Hope you have a good trip to S. Florida. I used to live there so I hope your son enjoys it down there. I think my parents feel the same way about me living over 1100 miles away. They’ve been here visiting for a week and they’re leaving tomorrow :(. I think I will have to get my hands on some of that Mal Silky!!!
I most certainly know how you feel! Of course, mine moved from Florida to St. Louis. The only good thing about his move for me (selfish, I know) is that I can visit the Loopy Ewe when I visit him and his wife. We did that in May and it was a great trip. But I miss him so much. His birthday is Thursday and I will not be with him any time even close to his birthday. I know his move was for a good reason (seminary) but it hasn’t been easy. You wll survive, and cats and knitting are a comfort! He is our only one, so empty nesting came quick!! He has grown into a fine young man, married a beautiful girl and we are so very proud of him. Just wish he was a little closer to home!
Like Eleanor, I’m one of those adult kids who moved 800 miles away from my parents over seven years ago. I don’t know what it’s like from the parents’ perspective, but I’m sure it’s hard. It’s hard from the kid’s perspective, too–we miss you, even if we don’t say so as often as you might like. But the benefits of having to grow up with friends instead of a family support network here outweighted the downsides for me. Because of my career (college prof when I finally graduate from grad school) I’ll probably never live that close to my parents. Fortunately, they’re always just a phone call or an email away. I guess all this is to say that I miss them, but I’m also grateful beyond words that they trusted me enough to know that I could make it on my own. I hope the trip is good, and it is a good excuse to go to Florida…though I might recommend your next trip to be around the time St. Louis is getting cold… 🙂
We moved my then-19-year-old son from Oklahoma to Florida in April 2008 for school. Not a traditional school with dorms, but a private university with no student residential housing and a 24/7 – literally, 24 hours, 7 days a week – schedule. I cried when he and his dad left to move him to Orlando and I didn’t know when I would see him again.
But I knew he would be okay if he stayed true to himself, and he did. He’s home now, but he starts a new job with the new Disney On Ice show in two weeks, and he’ll live out of various hotel rooms for the next three years. His permanent address will be here, though, which means I’ve got all his stuff that won’t fit into two suitcases.
The best advice I can offer is to be there when he needs you, but don’t let him become addicted to calling you for every little thing – and don’t let _you_ become addicted to him calling. We have to push them out of our nest sometime, not just physically but emotionally. This is his time and he deserves to have it on his own terms.
He’ll be fine. If Christopher (my son) can do it, anyone can. 😉
I think trips to Florida just broaden your chances of seeing other yarn shops. Oh wait…you have one of the best. 😉 Oh well….it will still be fun to visit.
I know it is hard to watch your son leave to start his new life. Take into account that you have a great son that has a job in a career that he seems to like. On a funnier note, he is not in your basement ordering pizza and playing video games with absolutely no ambition to do anything besides that. WH and you have done a great job with him and enjoy the young man he has become. (One less tuition bill =more yarn money).
The fact that he is going out on his own is wonderful. Kudo’s go to Mom and Dad!!!!! You did your job right 🙂
My daughter went to Israel for three months when she was 16 – scariest thing we’ve ever done and very hard to let go, but what a trip she had. Tomorrow she turns 20, who knows what it will bring, right?
I’m one of those kids who lives far from home…about 5,000 miles away from home in the wilds of Alaska! Be excited that he is within driving distance and you can got to visit a lovely new place 🙂 Dont worry, you did a great job with him.
no, it’s Not OK! when they go! My younger son moved from VT to Oregon 18 months ago, and I only see him twice/year–but then I never visited the Pacific Northwest before and it is completely gorgeous. It’s doable, it can be fun to visit, but you have all my sympathy for the ouch!!! part. And he will be fine…!
Yes, it IS okay…not the happiest thing in your life that you will experience but,….you can be SO proud of him and be SO thankful that he does have a job to move to. You and WH have done your part and now the Lord will continue to guide him. I know the Lord will also continue to bless him as well as you and WH as you all begin a new chapter in your lives. Having gone through the same feelings you are experiencing this past year, believe me, you’ll make it through the “growing pains.” : ) Ohhh and visiting will be fun, and he’ll always be so happy to have you come and make homecooked meals for him. They always miss that! Yes…he will be fine and so will you! As Alison said, “You have my sympathy for the ouch part!” Praying for you all.
Ooh, so far away! It’s good that he’s “letting” you drive down with him so you can visualize at least. I’m already wondering what I’ll do when my girls move away, and we’re still some years away from that! Have a safe trip, and have fun with your knitting time 🙂
Sheri, I did that to my mom. I moved first to the middle of nowhere in Connecticut, then to a place about 4 blocks from the worst police district in Washington DC. She wasn’t thrilled with either, but saw both, and somehow survived. We both did.
Why is it a good idea? Because what this does is prove to you what a wonderful job you did bringing him up. Besides, it also gives you a spot to go on vacation in the cold weather. 🙂
Hang in there! Safe travels!
Oh, and I also did that to BFF Liz. She took it somewhat better than Mama did.
Umm… trying having the kid move from western NY to Taiwan! She was gone for a year and no, I didn’t get to go visit her at all. It was a one year gig teaching English. She got to travel to Thailand, Japan and S. Korea on that trip too. Her next move from NY to Galveston was much easier to cope with.
My parents have six children between them (I’m the only one they share). Until last October, I was the only one of the six that lived in state. One was in Washington, one was in Missouri, one was is Florida… we were all spread out. For a while three of my siblings lived out of country due to military postings. My parents learned to deal with the absence of children and after a while? It was kind of nice. No one was underfoot, wearing out their welcome, or *gasp!* living at home. It seems tough now, but eventually, hopefully, you’ll come to enjoy it.
Until then? Care packages are great for BOTH of you. One idea I loved: Send him two-ply toilet paper. Single-ply is the worst and NEVER does the job. My mom used to send me a package every semester. It was AWESOME.
Wow, what a small world! I went to Taylor and I KNOW Audrey! She is the younger sister of a very good friend of mine from college 🙂 It was so crazy to look at that photo and realize I not only recognized the t-shirts, but someone in the photo!
Safe travels. Maybe Web Guy will do what my friend’s son did. He moved to Wisconsin, lived there a year and realized that “there’s no place like home.” He moved back to NC and joined family business.
PS Best wishes to Web Guy for much success.
Thanks so much for a wonderful weekend in St. Louis! I know Web Guy will do great in Florida! I’m sure he’s much better at feeding himself than I am, so you’ve got nothing to worry about 🙂
So… web guy sure does have a lot of nice girl friends! Hmm… you must have done something right mama!
This past weekend, one boy shipped off for two weeks of sailing camp and his brother was away for a whole day. Less than 24 hours with no kids in the house—still too weird. And this is just a preview. On the other hand, they’ve got to get out and stretch their wings (like we did)! It’s not easy, but you can be proud and happy that he’s turned out to be such a great kid. Have a good and safe trip!
Have a safe trip to Florida….I love to knit in the car, and miss our long road trips for soccer…….ahhhh..haircut…nothing like a good haircut……..mine is tomorrow!
My daughter is away for a few months and I’m thinking it’s practice for when she goes to college and then ultimately moves out of the nest. It’s weird! The house is very quiet. I haven’t tackled her messy room yet, but I will, just as soon as I finish S.Summit preparations. The mess that used to drive me crazy is now somehow comforting.
A good haircut always helps! As tight as money is, that will be the last thing to go!
We have three adult children. Two still live at home and hopefully will be on their own soon. Our oldest and our only daughter moved away from Virginia seven years ago, first to Connecticut, then Massachusetts, then Vermont and now lives in St. Louis. I miss her, she’s one of my knitting inspirations, but I’ll have to visit Loopy Ewe next time we’re in St. Louis.
When they move away it’s rough but somehow it gets better.
OHHHHH Sheri! IT’S NOT OK for them to move that far away, and I’m steeling my heart, too, for when my daughter graduates next year and more than likely she’ll be moving out West (which she has always wanted)…..from Michigan! yeah yeah..I get to visit..but…..tears come when I think of it.
Yes sirreee, you have to drive down there! You must make sir all is good as it’s good for your mind and calmness and worry factor and SLEEP at nite (which you won’t do well for a few days once you return).
And make sure someone holds you while you quietly cry.
yeah….it’s good they grow up and are kind and loved…but who didn’t tell us we would ache for them?
there’s water on my keyboard.
OH! on the cheery side!!! all that knitting (if you’re not passed out like I do when someone else is driving) and all that chit chat between the two of you!
to die for.
Best wishes Danny. This is the beginning of the rest of your life! Make the most of it, enjoy, and learn new things. You will do well…you’ve had great training at home from wonderful parents. Safe travels.
My son moved from NY to Utah, after going to school in Colorado. Even though I miss him, I think of all the great visits we’ve had and will have to see him in Utah. Look at it as a vacation opportunity!
Good Luck and it is OK with me if you cry like a baby when you leave him!
Well maybe, just maybe we will have a shuttle launch Wednesday evening, so if you are in the Orlando/Titusville area you could see it. I know its hard not having them home, the hardest thing that my daughter has had to get used to is no more breaks. She lives 300 miles from us but we seldom see her since she is always working. Hope that he contiues to enjoy south Florida, it sure has changed since I grew up there! But they still will need you as we are going to Tallahassee to help her move into a new apartment at the end of the month.
Oh Sheri!!! I feel your pain so much!!!! It is very hard but somehow we survive. My only son lives in Washington DC and we in Florida, he was gradually going further and further, College, grad school and job. I have not been able to get used to that but learnt to live with it. I am very grateful that he has a good jog and is doing very well and encourage him to fly and be who he wants to be. But sometimes I still cry at night… Just keep in close contact, is good to know what they are doing and you feel good sharing their lives even from a distance. The parcels with cookies o something they like is a very good idea. I used to send Starbucks’s gift cards to keep him going on coffee when he was at school, not anymore. My congratulations to WG and the best in his new life here. Reading your blog has been many times a great catharsis and thank you for sharing and caring.
Dunno, but at least WebGuy is closer to you than my sister is to the rest of the family. She moved to Australia when she was 20 (met this guy…) My parents were Not Happy. Especially as I moved about 2000 k away a couple of years later (only temporarily though)
Now my sister is a great reason to “have to” go to Australia now and then 🙂
We lived in Vermont for 25+ years. Raised 3.5 children there(the youngest @ 11 is still a work in progress). Our oldest child went out of state because she wanted to be away from home. OK-it was only NH but still over a 3 hour drive. When she graduated, she came home for a month-then packed up her car and ‘caravaned’ across country with another girl from UNH to San Diego 🙁
We miss her terribly but it is something she wanted to do so she wouldn’t have any regrets later for not trying something new. Cell phones and IMing online help along with visits back and forth. I see that she has become a smart, independent & well adjusted adult. (Something the next two are still a bit away from!)
Good luck & look forward to the holidays 🙂